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9/21/09

an evening rant

I think I have probably mentioned it before, but I will mention it again.

I hate it when women happily tell me (or the internet,) about something their husbands "let" them do.

"He let me buy ANOTHER new purse!"

"He let me have a girl's night at our house!"


Um. Are you four? Did you marry your daddy? Do you have a sticker chart for doing your chores?

Gross.

17 comments:

Drees009 said...

Try this one on for size:
Sister-in-law "You let your husband watch football on Sundays?"
I think that was the exact moment in my life where the word "let" was so pivotal. Fortunately, Shannon "lets" me do what I want, because I'm an adult.

Bug said...

I love you.... I do.

Brandi said...

Amen.

I have a friend whose husband is like that. He leaves her lists of chores he expects to be accomplished during the day. She has to ask his permission to go out for the evening (and he tells her when to be home). And worse, she's happy to live that way. She truly believes that that's what it means for him to be the priesthood holder and head of household.

Nicole said...

Goes right along with my other personal favorite -- "my husband is babysitting for me tonight."

Guess what ladies, you can't "babysit" your own children. It's called parenting.

Sharon said...

Seriously. And if it is ever implied that a man has to get "permission" from his wife to do anything - say, buy a truck, or some expensive computer equipment, then he must be a whipped wuss.

Lena said...

Hey, don't mock the sticker chart!

stewbert said...

Brandi, that is horrible! my stars ...

I've had salesmen refuse to meet with me alone because they want the husband present. Well then. I'll happily keep my money, tyvm.

The whole "let" thing and "babysitting" thing is a problem. But I don't think "permission" for a huge expense like a truck or computer is the right word. Have a budget discussion and see if it'll work, yeah. Smaller expenditures, no big deal.

NIKOL said...

I agree with Brandi: AMEN.

Hilary said...

Obviously, needing 'permission' for something like an evening out or a small purchase isn't an equal partnership, but I think taking the word 'let' and making a bigger deal out of it probably does a disservice to plenty of mature, capable adults who maybe in passing discussed a 'want' and their partner was all, "Yeah, that's totally cool."
I'm just saying, 'let' is just a word, and I think when it's being used randomly in the blogosphere, it's probably not a huge indication of a weak female being controlled by an overbearing husband . . . it's probably just a small, simple word used to indicate a discussion about something was had, and both parties were agreeable. :-)

Stephanie said...

hilary, i totally agree. but rest assured, the women in question do not use it randomly, or in a mature, adult way.

Hilary said...

Does it make me kinda evil that I TOTALLY wish I had access to both yours and Seriously So Blessed's blog readers, 'cause I never read the amusing/mockable stuff that you guys seem too . . . drat my predictable, intelligent and mature friends. :-) Reading about responsible adults in healthy relationships, who sometimes take cute pictures of their kids, gets kinda boring sometimes . . . :-)

Kari said...

I totally agree. My mother is from the "my husband let me" school. It drives me crazy!

Julie T. B. Hansen said...

So true.

Rynell said...

Ack! I completely agree.

Musings of the Mrs. said...

You are right. That is gross. Both ways. When husbands say it and when wives say it.

Brooke said...

Hilary -- AGREED!! What blogs are you and the creator of TAMN READING??!!! Where can I find them?

Mrs. Clark said...

Been married almost 29 years, and I have never, ever said that.

Thank you for drawing this silliness to our attention. Let's be adults, people!

Good thing I've never been left a list of chores to do...