(note: blogger published this before I was done, make sure to read to the end.)
Look, everyone, I like to argue. I'll argue about anything. Is the sky really blue? Define blue. What you see is blue I see as......
Yes, my husband is a lucky man, why do you ask?
But sometimes, I get sick of certain arguments. There are just some arguments not worth having anymore. I feel totally fine telling you this, as I am an expert in stupid arguments.
One such argument that needs to be over?
Feminine versus Feminist.
It is better to be feminine than a feminist. I'd rather be a feminist than feminine.
This argument is stupid. You can be both.
I think a lot of people fear feminism, because they think it prevents them from living a certain kind of life. From what I can tell, this often, but not always involves staying at home with kids, making dinner for their spouses, not wanting to compete in the workforce, and wearing dresses.
You can do all those things, and be a feminist. That is the point. You can spend the rest of your life raising your children and never receiving a formal paycheck and still want your next-door neighbor to earn as much as her male co-worker at the fancy firm down-town. And still have time to make dinner.
I think people also fear feminism because they don't think they can be equal with men, and different than men at the same time.
Everyone is different. But I can view a working father with the same value as I do a stay at home mom. They play equally important, but different roles.
On the other hand, I think people fear femininity because they perceive it as weak, or somehow degrading. I'm still not sure what it means to "be feminine."
But if it involves accepting the parts of yourself that make you a mother, a wife, or a woman, (different, but equally important as men,) that seems like a logical thing to do. A logical thing to do that still leaves you enough time to be a feminist.
Those feminists were wrong about one thing, though: You can't have it all. Nobody can. But you can have both: feminism and femininity.
Like ice cream! You know how you can get those chocolate and vanilla swirl cones? Who says you have to pick! Take both.
(I make a lot of food analogies for someone who doesn't cook.)