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3/15/10

beware the ides of march

As of 12:42 today, I've been married for 3 years, which seems exhilarating and exhausting at the same time. (Mostly because I've never done anything else for three years, and please don't make that into a gross pun.)




And now, for today's in class discussion question:


In my limited experience, when a girl gets a boyfriend, her grades go down. But when a boy gets a girlfriend, his grades go up. Why?


Am I making a gross generalization based on weird gender roles? Do I need to expand my field of inquiry? (So far I've observed the phenomenon 7 times.) Can I just blame society? Because I love blaming society for the world's ills.

18 comments:

CaitStClair | A Peachy Bride said...

Could it be that the girls tend to be more giving/eager to please and so are helping the boys with their work to the detriment of their own? No idea. And happy anniversary!

Xan said...

Maybe because the girl starts helping the boy with his work (increasing his grade), but this leaves her with less time for her work (decreasing her grade).

NIKOL said...

The Mister and I were going to get married on March 15th. But for a number of reasons (none of which I was very happy about) we ended up pushing it off until July. Just a little Nikol trivia for you.

Happy Anniversary!!

The Boob Nazi said...

My grades went up when I had a boyfriend. So yeah. I'm an anomaly. And awesome. haha I don't know where that came from.

Alyosha said...

Girls are smarter. And when she does her boyfriend's homework, his eases go up, but hers go down because she has less time for her own.

~j. said...

My first instinct is to answer that she's doing his homework for him and spending the rest of the time kissing, and then she doesn't do her own homework.

Upon further reflection, I have no second answer.

Hilary said...

Something about having a woman/girl around, I swear, is motivational for a man/boy . . . as happy as I was to get married at 25 to my wonderful husband, there were days when he was still in college where I would think, "If only I'd gotten my hooks into him when he was 21 . . . his grades would've been higher, I would've pushed him to do internships in his field instead of just working his old, fun job every summer between semesters, etc . . ."

Completely random observational conclusion of mine: You see far more (not all, just more) 28 year old single men still dabbling at the Community College with no real direction, than you do 28 year old married men. I think men, and even boys, who have made any kind of commitment (even just the high school kind) tend to think ahead a little more and try harder to by impressive to the woman/girl they want.

Although, my brother (18 years old, Senior) is the opposite of this right now -- my Mom's never left a Parent/Teacher Conference so infuriated . . . seems someone won't stop texting his girlfriend in class instead of paying attention . . .

Amy said...

Interesting.
Another example: at BYU the male athletes perform better after they get married than before, and female athletes are encourage to avoid serious relationships.

mommy dearest said...

our girls are taught to admire intelligent men. Our culture still does not teach men to value intelligent women. Men and boys are still threatened by intelligent women. It starts in grade school and unfortunately some of them never get over it.

Lisa Louise said...

I would agree that for the most part the girls do a little worse and boys tend to do a little better. I had a friend who tutored her boy but then didn't have as much time for her own studies. Lame boys!

Talina said...

I agree with Hilary. I think that men work harder when they have a woman to impress/answer to ;)
And women (in general) tend to focus on the relationship to the detriment of other areas in their lives (thus the BYU athletes comment by Amy).

stewbert said...

I didn't read all the comments, but *most* of the time, I think that's true. But when my brother met his wife (first serious girlfriend EVER), his grades tanked and he fell off the dean's list, while hers improved a bit.

Andrew and Becca said...

Delurking to say that the semester I was engaged, commuting 90 minutes to see my fiance 4 times a week, and planning my wedding... I got my very first 4.0, and since I've been married my GPA has vastly improved. Whether this is because fiance/husband is different than boyfriend, or because I am just weird, is something I can't answer.

Nookleerman said...

I think it's just like how unmarried women live longer than married women and married men live longer than unmarried men. Our life expectancy goes up and yours goes down because we are sucking the life right out of you. Boys add significant stress to a girl's life, and are a major distraction to an otherwise focused and attentive student. On the other hand, girls add focus where there was none, either in scholastic or extra-curricular pursuits, be it for the purpose of impressing her, or simply because they were unaware of their potential until they saw it reflected in her eyes. Also there is some homework helping going on.

Brammer Family said...

Hoooray for 3 years! :D

Ash said...

You're effing kidding me!?? I was married on March 15th 2007. What a coincidence! Must be why I like your blog so much. You have good taste in wedding days among other things. However, it was 11:30 for me, and in the Bountiful Temple. Magic!

Lena said...

I love the Ides of March, and I had no idea you were married that day. Now it means even more!

ChristyLove said...

Son of a Mother. You've been married longer than me. You're more educated than me. And I'm starting to realize you're an eensy bit funnier than me.