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7/22/10

because no one says "sidekick" when asked what they want to be when they grow up.

I know that every job has value and importance, and that there are also benefits to certain jobs (part-time options, flexible schedules, no need for expensive graduate degrees,) that other jobs don't have. So don't e-slay me when I say this:


Sometimes I get sad when girls only want to be (and are only taught to be) assistants, attendants, and aides to the main show in the career theater. Especially when we teach boys that they MUST be the main show in order to "provide."


Be the main attraction, ladies.

15 comments:

Carrera said...

Well, no, excellent-ly said.

Pardon my english :)

Claire said...

Reminds me of what my two-year-old niece said recently when asked what she wants to be when she grows up: "I want to be a dad!"

The Boob Nazi said...

I've never heard anyone say that. I'm glad.

RadioFreeEntomologist said...

You tell 'em.

Hilary said...

When I was two or three, I was telling my Mom I thought I'd be a Nurse when I grew up. . . she said, "That's great . . . you'd be a really good Nurse! But, you know, you could also be a Doctor, if you wanted to be. Or a Scientist, or a Teacher, an Engineer . . . you can be anything you want to be . . ." wanting to make sure all possibilities were highlighted for her first daughter.

My eyes lit up and I happily exclaimed, "Oh yeah, I want to be an Engineer! I'll take you and Daddy on my train all the time!" :-)

To this day I kinda feel like I missed my calling driving trains :-) Did end up marrying an Engineer though. The Mechanical Engineer kind though . . . no train rides in our life, unfortunately. :-) (As for me, I chose a Graphic Design kinda career path -- my young self had no idea what I was talking about -- I could've never been a nurse; I nearly passed out getting an IV during labor a few weeks ago! And, I'd probably get motion sick driving trains all day.)

Linds said...

Well said! I tell my girls they can be whatever they want to be... which someday's if you ask them are rather amusing answers.

heidikins said...

Amen!

xox

Me said...

"Be the main attraction, Ladies"
I love that, very well put!

Mrs. Clark said...

Hear, hear.

Jessi said...

Hi, I found your blog on the Boob Nazi's blog, and I found hers because of her hilarious comments on seriouslysoblessed.

I stalk a lot, but felt the need to toss in my comment with the resounding "amens". I, too, am a high school English/history teacher and feel dismay every time I think of the bright girls I have in class closing doors too early.

This reminds me of a conversation I had with the sister-in-law of a guy I was seeing at BYU during which she told me she chose her major because it was the only one to keep her interest for four years as she would never dream of using her degree unless, of course, her husband died. Eesh...

Liv said...

Sometimes I want a break from being the main attraction. I just spent the last 9 months pregnant and working full-time because my husband doesn't have a degree and didn't have a job up until two weeks ago.

I'm SO grateful I have a degree and career experience that makes me an asset in the workplace, but I'm also relieved I now have a choice to work part-time once the baby comes.

I understand completely what you're advocating though. Everyone should live up to their potential!

Queen of the Castle said...

My oldest daughter once said, "I want to marry a doctor when I grow up." Let's just say that a serious talk was then started about goals in life. A few days later she came and told me that she wants to be a dentist. That was a while ago and she still wants to be a dentist.

NIKOL said...

I see what you're saying here, and I read the disclaimer that every job has value and importance. But what I'm hearing is that even though I kick ass at my job, I am "just" an assistant.

That makes me sad.

Stephanie said...

NIKOL-

I think what I was trying to say was that we should teach girls to be whatever they want to be, and to kick ass at it.

Instead of teaching them that boys are dentists, and girls are dental hygienwhatsits.*

There is nothing wrong with being a dental hygienwhatsis,* unless you were taught that was your job because you have girl parts. (And that the people with boy parts deserve to be a dentist because they have a family to provide for.)


* I can't spell.

Brooke said...

I also think we need to do a better job at teaching boys that they don't HAVE to be the main attraction unless they want to be. That they are just as valuable to society as a man in a job they love, even if it's not traditional. My cousin is a phenomenal nurse. He's one of the best the burn unit has. It takes special people and medical skills to be able to deal with those kinds of injuries. But he's also one of the only men on his team. He gets mocked sometimes when he tells people he's a male nurse ... it makes me angry. They have no idea what he does or how awesome he is at it. I wonder if there are as many men who don't pursue jobs they want because they feel pressure to do something else as there are women who pursue the sidekick jobs because they don't think they should be the main attraction.